Tag Archives: John Gottman

May 23 – Three Love Questions

Life is bewildering. Life isn’t as easy as 1 + 1 = 2. Sometimes 1 + 1 = 1 or even 3.

Are relationships meant to be? How do people choose one set of friends over another, or, more specifically, one person over another? How does love work?

Today’s senryu: Three Love Questions

Who loved who first? You,

me, or the spirit between?

Relationship bound?



If the sequence of real numbers (an) is such that all the terms are less than some real number M, then the sequence is said to be bounded from above. In other words, this means that there exists M such that for all nan ≤ M. Any such M is called an upper bound. Likewise, if, for some real man ≥ m for all n greater than some N, then the sequence is bounded from below and any such m is called a lower bound. If a sequence is both bounded from above and bounded from below, then the sequence is said to be bounded.” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sequence



I look at relationships. What’s different about what I do, compared with most psychologists, is that for me the relationship is the unit, rather than the person. What I focus on is a very ephemeral thing, which is what happens between people when they interact. It’s not either person, it’s something that happens when they’re together. It is like a structure that they’re building by the way they interact. And I think of it that way, almost like a fleeting architectural fluid form that people are creating as they talk to each other, as they smile, as they move.https://www.edge.org/conversation/john_gottman-the-mathematics-of-love