Category Archives: Observations

TERPSICHORE

Is it Terpsicore or Terpsicurry?  “If that’s all there is my friends then let’s keep dancing” (song by Peggy Lee).

My first book of poetry, Tangoed Up in Blue, was about learning to dance at an Arthur Murray’s Dance Studio in Kentwood, Michigan.  My wife and I spent seven years learning, competing and generally enjoying dance in many forms.  We met many new people, visited dance studios and floors across many states and acquired a small wardrobe of dance costumes.  We considered it our “country club membership” and spent more than a few dollars each year enjoying the art.

Prior to lessons, I considered dance as something akin to doing jumping jacks or slow Frankenstein rotations that could only be performed in loud, dark environments after three drinks, at least.  Fortunately, with lessons, alcohol was not needed but didn’t hurt; especially, if you were being asked to dance by strangers in a crowded hall.  I remember one night at a dude ranch in Sheridan, Wyoming, being asked to do a Western Swing dance with someone half my age in an old barn used to introduce visitors to one another.  My wife and I were there with her family for a horse-riding family reunion and she encouraged me to accept the invitation.  Yes, dance is a fun way to make contact in a strange place with strangers.

I’ll never forget the first time I danced with a man.  It was my wife’s professional teacher and he wanted to see how I waltzed.  My wife was trying to explain how I couldn’t really lead that dance so her teacher wanted to experience my lead for himself.  Sure enough, I needed many more lessons 😊  Funny, how that works out.

They say, dance is good for physical fitness, mental clarity and emotional stability. “They” being dance instructors mostly.  But are there are more important reasons we dance?  Self-expression, body/mind alignment, releasing depression and endorphins?  Certainly physical touch alone can be healing so full body contact while swaying and gliding across a dance floor must be truly liberating.

If/when this COVID-19 pandemic subsides, I might consider taking lessons again. It’s been close to 15 years since my last lesson and there’d be a lot of rust to work off; but, as the Zimbabwe proverb goes: “if you can walk you can dance.” The opportunity to “shake a leg” would be a fun way to enjoy an evening or two; hopefully without a facemask and latex gloves, of course.

Would you like to dance?

(See Tangoed Up & Blue by Patrick J. Cole (goodreads.com))

The Third Eye

So tell me again about the third eye. Does “right view” come from higher consciousness or insight? Can anyone be a see-er, or seer, to understand more than what our optical nerves can detect? Does meditation, strengthen this mental skill, or does qigong enhance our visual abilities?

“Richard Rohr says the concept of the third eye is a metaphor for non-dualistic thinking, the way the mystics see.” Third eye – Wikipedia  Rohr says there are three levels of sight: sensory input, then reason or reflection, and ultimately, the mystical gaze which builds on the first two to arrive at insight.

Or is it more biological, such as the pineal gland that resides between the two hemispheres of the brain? Something that can sense light without needing the optical nerves in our physical eyes.  Like knowing where to go and how to navigate in deep darkness.

I don’t know much about auras, or chakras, or perceptions of invisible worlds, yet there have been times I’ve “seen” things that guide me in one direction over another.  Where does our “intuition” come from?  That ability to know something “in our gut” without needing to collect facts and reason them out. 

Or am I confusing the metaphysical with just plain common sense? My wife likes to tease me when I ponder something that’s so obvious for her.  She regularly quotes from the movie Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid:  “You just keep thinkin’ Butch.  That’s what you’re good at.” I always forget to respond “I got vision and the rest of the world wears bifocals”. 🙂

P.S. Don’t look too closely or you will see the trifocals I’m wearing 🙂

What’s on my desk

I spend more and more time at my desk these days, doing everything from completing three different daily journals to working on this blog. Because of this, my workspace needs a little upkeep from time to time. For example, right now there are a dozen books within arm’s reach that would normally be on bookshelves four to five feet away. I’m accessing them all but for some reason having them close by seems necessary right now. Am I expecting wisdom by osmosis? Inspiration by proximity?

Before the week’s end I will tidy up to start the next week with a clean and organized desk again. How about you? What’s your desk or writing area look like?

Snow in Missouri

Our last winter in Michigan, the 2013/2014 season, resulted in 115 inches of snow accumulation, breaking the previous record that had stood for over one hundred and thirty-three years.  We had been thinking of moving South for some time and this extra snowfall provided added incentive.  We moved to Missouri in the Summer of 2014!

Our first winter in Missouri the total snowfall was a little over 4 inches and the most we’ve had in the five winters since was an annual accumulation of 6 inches.  Just enough to remember its beauty but not enough to last for very long. Total melting is rarely more than 72 hours.

With all the ice melting in the Arctic, scientists say the polar vortex is breaking.  Which I believe means the cold northern winds don’t flow like years passed.  Instead of a wide swath of freezing temperatures across Canada and the northern U.S. border states; now, like a split tongue, the northern U.S. border states are experiencing milder, less snowy, winters but the lower U.S. states are receiving snow and colder temperatures more than ever before. Michigan and Missouri winters are more similar now in both temperatures and snowfall.  One reason for moving South in 2014 no longer exists in the Winter of 2021.  Who knows, maybe we will move back to our home state someday?  We shall see.

My Challenge With Equanimity

An Irish redhead by birth, I came by my “hothead” temper honestly.  The first child of two narcissists, it was hard to get noticed unless I screamed.  While I received some attention, I felt little comfort and found this strategy “not working for me.” I was instructed to count to ten, keep my feelings inside and hold my cards close to my chest. A poker face would serve me better, they said, than a red face to match my “carrot-top” head.

In my teens I discovered Norman Vincent Peale, and his positive thinking was a great mind game.  Always looking for the silver lining helped distract me from any inner pain. Yet some situations needed more than a rosy attitude or bright shiny outlook to tame. And somehow, “just forgive them”, wasn’t enough to keep me from going insane.

So, in my young adulthood I found the Tao and later the Buddha as well.  The focus on letting life flow and serenely smiling seemed like something worth trying; but still inside me the volcano would swell.  Until I exploded over something too trivial to really be bothered about. Redeeming my “stamp collection” was something too ugly to let out.

So what about this equanimity thing?  You know, caring less about good and bad; letting all just flow over me like rain on a duck’s back?  If I cared less about the good times could I train myself to care less about whatever irritation arose? Could I take refuge in impermanence, knowing nothing, including feelings, would last?

Could I calmly watch misery happening, or hear stupidity displayed with pride?  Accept injustice as simply a learning process that with enough patience and love would subside?  Could I look at the long game or long arc as Dr. King would say? Could I remain peaceful inside while I watched the other “inmates” play?

Existentialism brings some temporary comfort by accepting the purposelessness of life; but then I get jerked again by some stupid comment that cuts through my calm like a hot butter knife. And the Pure Land or heavenly afterlife may bring temporary peace when I look forward to the non-thinking of the dearly deceased.

But it’s here, right now, in this present moment when I experience this maddening day.  Can I remember my father telling me “believe half of what you see and none of what others say”? Can I just close my eyes and smile coyly; pleasantly dreaming serenely? Unfortunately, I still struggle with equanimity.

(Deep sigh…………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….)