Author Archives: Patrick Cole

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About Patrick Cole

Husband, parent and writer. Sharing stories with a little humor and wisdom along the way.

Is It Harder to Practice Alone?

Attended a three-day retreat last weekend and enjoyed the meditation practices with some 80 people attending. Collective energy, collective mindfulness is a palpable reality.

Below Lynn J Kelly elaborates on what a retreat might do for each of us depending upon where we are on the path.

How ’bout you? Are retreats helpful for your practice?

You Can Have This Heart to Break

💔 Broken Heart Emoji – Meaning, Pictures, Codes

Billy Joel is part of my life soundtrack. He eloquently expresses my joy and suffering like no other artist.

I’ve recently been listening to his album, The Essential Billy Joel, and the song that most resonates with me at this time is: And So It Goes. The title reminds me of my favorite writer, Kurt Vonnegut, Jr., and Joel’s lyrics hit me right in the heart.

Yes, sometimes life sucks but there are still good memories to keep us going. Perhaps the music video below will bring back some good memories for you.

Billy Joel – And So It Goes (Official Video)

Billy Joel – And So It Goes (Official Video) – YouTube

The Tears of Things

I’m feeling sad today – how ’bout you?

Richard Rohr, in his book published last year (see book cover below), says it so well:

“There is an inherent sadness and tragedy in almost all situations: in our relationships, our mistakes, our failures large and small, and even our victories. We must develop a very real empathy for this reality, knowing that we cannot fully fix things, entirely change them, or make them to our liking …. all things have tears and all things deserve tears.” p.4 of The Tears of Things by Richard Rohr (c) 2025.

The Tears of Things: Prophetic Wisdom for an Age of Outrage: Rohr, Richard: 9780593735817: Amazon.com: Books

Fortunately, I’m also recalling the Buddha’s metta (loving-kindness) prayer: “May we be happy … may we be well … may we be safe … may we live with ease.”

Now if I can only hold the feelings of sadness and loving-kindness simultaneously. How ’bout you?

Picture taken by author at Magnolia Grove Monastery in Batesville, MS

Pain Management & Mindfulness

A couple of years ago, I became deaf in one ear. It was bizarre and lasted for six weeks before improvement began. With the help of modern medicine and mindfulness I fully regained my hearing.

The procedure that led to improvement involved shots into my ear which required me not to twitch or move in any way as the needle was inserted. I did not look forward to the weekly shots, but I knew I needed to endure them in order to have any hope of my hearing returning to normal.

I share this, fortunately temporary, condition because mindfulness helped me enter the doctor’s office and accept the procedure that was coming. Through breath awareness and recalling the Five Remembrances, I was able to still my body and accept the medical procedure.

Below is a link to Lynn J Kelly’s blog where she shares what she has learned about pain management and mindfulness. I think you’ll find it interesting.

Walking Meditation ala Thich Nhat Hanh

Lynn J Kelly shares her appreciation for mindful walking and the guidance offered by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh in her blog post linked below. I have also found this practice especially helpful in times of high stress or overwhelming feelings. Moving slowly can be especially calming when your body needs to “walk off” whatever pain is being experienced in the moment.

May we walk mindfully for ourselves and for those who are not able to walk at this time.