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High Coo – Dec 4 – Animal Blessings

Who blesses who? Who loves who? Who rescues who?

It’s been three days since we said goodbye to Lexie. Today I say hello again and look forward to the day we all will meet in the Pure Land aka Rainbow Bridge.

Below are a couple of quotes from the excellent book Blessing the Animals by Lynn L. Caruso (c) 2006 to comfort us in the meantime.

The love we give to a pet, and receive from a pet, can draw us more deeply into the larger circle of life, into the wonder of our common relationship to our Creator.Kevin E. Mackin, OFM referenced on p.23 Blessing for Cats

There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life: music and cats.Albert Schweitzer referenced on p.31 Blessings for Cats

May all creatures be freed from their suffering. May all creatures be freed from their illness. May those in fear be comforted and those bound be set free.Buddhist prayer adapted by Lynn L. Caruso Partings p.180

Today’s humble senryu: Lexie

we will not forget

our love for each other – we

will reunite soon

Leezy (with caramel-colored feet) and her sister Lexie (with white feet)

Dec 3 – How to Live When a Loved One Dies

https://www.parallax.org/authors/thich-nhat-hanh/

“Our loved ones are in us and we are in them. When a loved one dies, a part of us also dies.” p.2

“We are in the habit of identifying ourselves with our bodies. The idea that we are this body is deeply entrenched in us. But your loved one is not just their body; they are much more than that …. The idea that “This body is me and I am this body” is a belief we must let go of. If we do not, we will suffer a great deal. We are life, and life is far vaster than this body, this concept, this mind …. We are not limited to our physical body, even when we are alive. We inter-are with our ancestors, our descendants, and the whole of the cosmos. We do not have a separate self; we are interconnected with all of life, and we, and everything, are always in transformation.” p.100-101

I miss Lexie.

I’m grateful for the reminders Thich Nhat Hanh offers us.

May we all have a peaceful weekend.

Dec 1 – Some Days Are Stone

Lexie

After fourteen years together, I delivered our beautiful cat, Lexie, to veterinary specialists for a throat scope early this morning. In a few short weeks she had gone from a social, vocal and loving feline companion to a hoarse, weak, barely eating cat choosing to hide from the family.

An x-ray late last week and a CT-scan earlier this week, revealed a mass in her throat. Veterinary specialists advised a throat scope but forewarned us Lexie might not survive the procedure. They told us a throat scope could tell us more about the mass and any possible treatment options.

We were mentally prepared for the worst but still hoped for any good news. Sadly, we were not fully prepared emotionally to hear the final diagnosis and recommendation. The throat scope revealed Lexie had cancer and it had progressed beyond any recommended treatment. They could revive her for a final goodbye, but euthanasia appeared to be the most compassionate next step.

My wife and I returned to say our goodbyes. We petted and hugged her. We apologized for not knowing how to help her earlier than we had. We thanked her for our fourteen years together. We asked her to wait for us at Rainbow Bridge. We told her we would miss her terribly and would place her cremains on our memorial bookcase with other loved ones from our “furever” family.

My wife held Lexie as our beloved feline received two injections into her IV. She was gone almost instantly. See https://www.vet.cornell.edu/departments-centers-and-institutes/cornell-feline-health-center/health-information/feline-health-topics/euthanasia-what-expect-and-what-questions-ask-first

Love is hard, grief is hard, and some days are very hard.

John Denver’s version of Some Days Are Diamonds seems a fitting memorial song.

November 18 – Remembering A Deceased Loved One

Memorial site for a traffic accident on a country road

Remembering a loved one doesn’t necessarily need to end at the memorial service or the death site. Both of these actions are appropriate responses yet more may be desired to keep the loved one’s memory closer to home, closer to you on a daily basis.

Two writings offer some helpful advice. First is an article by Allison Grinberg-Funes (https://www.eterneva.com/resources/memorialize-loved-ones) in which she offers Ideas for Memorializing Deceased Loved Ones:

  1. Turn their ashes into a cremation diamond
  2. Visit their final resting place
  3. Do something they enjoyed or you did together
  4. Have a memorial release with balloons or butterflies
  5. Listen to their favorite songs or watch their favorite movies
  6. Look through old photos with friends and family
  7. Plant a tree, shrub, or flowers and visit it
  8. Create a memorial website or Facebook page
  9. Donate to their favorite charity
  10. Eat or cook their favorite food
  11. Write them a letter, poem or song.

The second writing is a section from Thich Nhat Hanh’s book How To Live When A Loved One Dies (c) 2020, Parallax Press called Making An Altar For Your Loved One:

“When we have lost someone we love, we often feel the need to express our deep love and gratitude to them…and we want to keep their memory alive…Making a shrine or altar is a concrete way of expressing our love and care, and of helping us feel connected to them. We can set up a small table and place a photograph of our loved one, a candle, some flowers, and other meaningful things on it.” p.133 http://www.parallax.org/product/how-to-live-when-a-loved-one-dies/

Check out both sources for more information.

In the meantime, here is today’s brief poem: Remembering A Deceased Loved One

our lives together

made great memories for us –

thank you forever

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High Coo – Oct 22 – National Make a Dog’s Day

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Four years ago, automaker Subaru and the ASPCA teamed up to establish National Make a Dog’s Day. As the promotors explain:

“Dogs are now an integral part of our lives for most of us. They are among the most popular, misused, and underappreciated pets worldwide. A dog is intelligent, can follow instructions, and will stay loyal until the end. National Make a Dog’s Day is about spending time with our dogs and encouraging people to provide better conditions for all dogs. We must make sure that every dog has a forever home.” https://nationaltoday.com/national-make-a-dogs-day/

“How can you tell if a dog is happy? A high and waggy tail, floppy ears, relaxed body, playfulness, etc., are a few signs that the dog is happy.” Check out https://nationaltoday.com/national-make-a-dogs-day/

Here’s today’s haiku: Make a Dog’s Day

if you have a dog

you already know – if not,

foster one today

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High Coo – August 30 – National Grief Awareness Day

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There are many ways people cope with loss. Today we raise awareness on the sources of and resources for dealing with grief.

A lot has been learned about grief and it is not as simple or as sequential as once thought. For more information on this see https://nationaltoday.com/national-grief-awareness-day/

Here is today’s haiku: National Grief Awareness Day

Grief complications:

do not rush or minimize

self-care importance

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High Coo – August 22 – Killing for Love?

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Today is the International Day to Commemorate Victims of Religious-based Violence which was first celebrated by the United Nations General Assembly in 2019.

The holiday explanation (see: https://nationaltoday.com/international-day-commemorating-the-victims-of-acts-of-violence-based-on-religion-or-belief/) states “Religion offers moral codes and teachings that can guide people to better their lives and the lives of others. But there’s ample evidence showing it may achieve the opposite.”

Today’s haiku: Killing for Love?

If life is sacred,

is harming life sacred too?

Does love inspire hate?

I think it’s healthy to question whether our actions support our beliefs. I think it’s helpful to invite “fellow believers” to do the same. I’m interested in knowing what you think.

High Coo – June 12 – Trinity Sunday

Parents and children – where love can bloom

Today is Trinity Sunday. Whatever your faith or non-faith tradition, there’s wisdom in knowing we’re stronger as a supportive group than we are as individuals. Here’s today’s haiku:

Going As a River

Parents and offspring,

empowered by joyful love,

build community

For a more traditional religious perspective, you may also enjoy a sonnet by Malcolm Guite: https://malcolmguite.wordpress.com/2022/06/10/a-sonnet-for-trinity-sunday-9/

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