Memorial site for a traffic accident on a country road
Remembering a loved one doesn’t necessarily need to end at the memorial service or the death site. Both of these actions are appropriate responses yet more may be desired to keep the loved one’s memory closer to home, closer to you on a daily basis.
Two writings offer some helpful advice. First is an article by Allison Grinberg-Funes (https://www.eterneva.com/resources/memorialize-loved-ones) in which she offers Ideas for Memorializing Deceased Loved Ones:
- Turn their ashes into a cremation diamond
- Visit their final resting place
- Do something they enjoyed or you did together
- Have a memorial release with balloons or butterflies
- Listen to their favorite songs or watch their favorite movies
- Look through old photos with friends and family
- Plant a tree, shrub, or flowers and visit it
- Create a memorial website or Facebook page
- Donate to their favorite charity
- Eat or cook their favorite food
- Write them a letter, poem or song.
The second writing is a section from Thich Nhat Hanh’s book How To Live When A Loved One Dies (c) 2020, Parallax Press called Making An Altar For Your Loved One:
“When we have lost someone we love, we often feel the need to express our deep love and gratitude to them…and we want to keep their memory alive…Making a shrine or altar is a concrete way of expressing our love and care, and of helping us feel connected to them. We can set up a small table and place a photograph of our loved one, a candle, some flowers, and other meaningful things on it.” p.133 http://www.parallax.org/product/how-to-live-when-a-loved-one-dies/
Check out both sources for more information.
In the meantime, here is today’s brief poem: Remembering A Deceased Loved One
our lives together
made great memories for us –
thank you forever